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Posted April 7, 2012 | comments Leave a comment

Raising sons will be a new challenge

When you decide to have children, there are so many factors to consider. When is the right time to start? Are you really ready? What kind of parenting style do you want to practice?

Then when you decide to add to your family once again, it seems like there are even more things to think about. What is the right spacing between children? How will you help your first child adapt? What baby gear will you be able to reuse? Will you keep the nursery you have, or redecorate for the upcoming arrival?

Of course, perhaps the biggest "factor" in so many of these decisions is one that, at least for now, is out of our control.
 
Boy, or girl?

Until the point in pregnancy (or as some choose, birth) that you know the answer to that question, "baby" feels a bit just like an idea, and all the tasks that lie ahead need to wait.
Or at least that's how I'd been feeling.

Finally this week, we got to see our baby up on that ultrasound screen and got the answer we'd been waiting for: Not only will my son become a brother later this year, he'll be getting a brother as well. He's already dubbed him "dirty ole boy."

That's right, I'll be the mother of two sons.

As for the question of how we'll adapt, two boys isn't something my husband or I have experienced. He has a sister, and I have a brother. I can't wait to see how two boys will bond -- and fight.

My husband is already joking that his biggest concern is property damage. His biggest joy, he added glibly, is not having to finance a daughter's wedding.

I told him the auto insurance costs and legal fees will make up for it.

We're really enjoying this newfound knowledge that we'll be the parents of boys -- plural.
The added bonus is that most of the logistics of having a second baby are already taken care of since he's of the same gender. I've got plenty of clothes, toy trucks, baby blue blankets and all the other accessories we'll need.

The downside to that is a lot of my mental energy the first time around was devoted to shopping. This time around, it's all done for me. That might make for a long few months waiting for our second son to arrive.

I suppose that means that the rest of this pregnancy I'll have more capacity for imagining what this baby will be like. How much will he look like his brother? In what ways will they be different, and the same?

It's comforting that being the mother of a baby boy is familiar territory for me, and I sure have enjoyed raising one little boy so far. I like to imagine that this will mean double the fun.
We're already envisioning the fun to be had on camping and fishing trips in the future, and how our boys might get to play on the same teams down the road.

Having two brothers in the house will definitely be something new and exciting for our family. I hope you'll all be wishing for the best for us in the coming months -- and I'd love any advice you have for raising two boys.

Contact Jessica Wiant at jessicawiant@gmail.com

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